From here:
A recent feature in J. Crew’s online catalogue portrays designer Jenna Lyons painting her son Beckett’s toe nails hot pink. The quote accompanying the image reads, “Lucky for me, I ended up with a boy whose favorite color is pink. Toenail painting is way more fun in neon.”
Yeah, well, it may be fun and games now, Jenna, but at least put some money aside for psychotherapy for the kid-and maybe a little for others who’ll be affected by your “innocent” pleasure.
Is this the slippery pink slope to lipstick, eyeliner, high-heels and pre-teen gender reassignment? Personally, knowing the reaction it would have created in school, I wouldn’t have let my mother paint my toenails at that age however much she liked pink – and she did. But, unlike today, schools were sane in the middle-ages when I attended.
Perhaps the best outcome of his psychotherapy will be to help him see the hypocrisy of religious bigots.
Good try, Jim, but you’re very transparent.
Gender assignments are so highly reinforced in every social institution in our culture, I wouldn’t worry too much about “corrupting” your child by letting him play the way he wants to, whether its with dolls or trucks. If anything, allowing your son to find his own identity rather than be forced into our societal norms will be the thing that keeps him out of therapy. Gender/race/class/etc. social expectations are the root of most inequality and exploitation throughout the world. On an added note, would people have this same closed-minded attitude towards girls wanting to play the way boys are expected to? The stigma around male homosexuality in our country is so negative, and here is a pretty blatant example.
I would not encourage my kid to play with any type of girl’s toy or let him paint his (toe)nails any colour. That’s not what boys should do. Society is attempting to redefine what it means to be a guy by saying it’s OK to do feminine things or act feminine. IMO, THAT causes gender confusion. Because it then comes down to, what does it mean to be a guy?